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I delivered a keynote address a few weeks ago and during the Q&A I was asked for ‘a headline tip that would change our lives'.

Like the audience I saw the funny and ironic side too – a tip that would change your life, that would be easy… said no one!

However, loving a challenge I paused, went inside myself for a moment and this question popped into my head – for transparency it’s been boring into my skull for months now.

“How are you complicit in creating the conditions you say you don’t want?”

The impact on the audience was stark.

It didn’t tip toe into the room, it barged in, sat down in the middle, and poked everyone in the metaphorical eye.
Ouch.
But also… damn.

It’s confronting because what if it’s even 1% true?

Not everything is our fault - life happens - but many of our patterns, choices, tolerances, and reactions keep us stuck in the very situations we complain about.

> You want less overwhelm but say yes to everything.

> You want more energy but sacrifice sleep.

> You want deeper relationships but avoid vulnerability.

> You want happiness but keep postponing it for “when life settles down”.

Spoiler alert – these are all mine to claim too 😊

What if the first step to feeling better isn’t doing more… but stopping your part in making things harder?

Why happiness, and why now?

Because waiting for life to change before you do, is how unhappiness becomes a habit.

The sooner you see your role, the sooner you reclaim your power.