#196

You can’t see the back of your own head.
Unless, of course, you use a mirror.
Or, as was pointed out to me recently, you actually need two - one behind, one in front and angled just right.
My own two mirror moment.

There are parts of us we simply cannot view alone.
Blind spots. Biases. Assumptions.
Reactions we don't understand and patterns we don't notice.
Everyone else can see them… but we can't.

That thing you do when you're under pressure? Others have probably noticed.
That tone you take when you're “just being direct”, it’s pretty obvious to others.
But without 2 mirrors - without someone else holding one up gently, clearly, compassionately - we’ll never see the full picture.

Two-mirror moments come in many forms.
Sometimes it’s a boss, a mentor, a trusted friend.
Sometimes it’s a hard conversation, a surprising piece of feedback, or the kind of stillness that allows a new distinction to reveal itself.

Occasionally, life throws a two-mirror moment at us so powerfully we can’t unsee what’s been shown.

And then there’s the opposite—when we refuse the mirrors entirely.
We walk around pretending we’ve got a 360-degree view, when really, we’ve got about 120 and the rest is guesswork.
We misinterpret. We defend. We assume.
Because facing the back of your own head can be disorienting.
Who is that person back there? Is that really me? Was it my intention?
Yes. It is. And the sooner we can embrace that we don’t have full perspective, the more open we become to the mirrors that matter.

So, here’s a gentle whisper for the week:
- Who (or what) are your mirrors?
- When was the last time you let someone show you something you couldn't see yourself?
- And how do you respond when the view surprises you?

Life isn’t meant to be lived in reflecting in isolation.
It's meant to be seen, shared, revealed—one angled mirror at a time.
Because maybe the goal isn’t to always see ourselves clearly…
Maybe it’s to keep being curious about what we might still need to see.

As Proust said, "The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes."
Who will you let be your new eyes?

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Pete